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The New Adventures of Mr Stephen Fry » Topic: What to do in a suicide crisis http://www.stephenfry.com/forum/topic/what-to-do-in-a-suicide-crisis Just another bbPress community en-US Wed, 22 May 2013 20:01:02 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 <![CDATA[Search]]> q http://www.stephenfry.com/forum/search.php Vampyros on "What to do in a suicide crisis" http://www.stephenfry.com/forum/topic/what-to-do-in-a-suicide-crisis/page/2#post-285463 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 02:35:51 +0000 Vampyros 285463@http://www.stephenfry.com/forum/ I know how all feel and normally and would be the first to offer support. I have not been here for a while as I miss KSC so much, I know others do as well. But every now and again it hits so profoundly I just sink back to the bottomless pit. I and KSC help(ed) so many but I now question my belief system. The once person I could not help/save was KSC, she more beautiful thane me, more talented yet and no airs, she love all who whould listen even paritally. The morpine is ready I know my past mistakes and am ready, ArleneA on "What to do in a suicide crisis" http://www.stephenfry.com/forum/topic/what-to-do-in-a-suicide-crisis/page/2#post-284405 Sun, 20 May 2012 09:21:38 +0000 ArleneA 284405@http://www.stephenfry.com/forum/ Sometimes you just wonder "what is the point anymore" in anything; I am so done with it all now. michael on "What to do in a suicide crisis" http://www.stephenfry.com/forum/topic/what-to-do-in-a-suicide-crisis/page/2#post-253901 Mon, 15 Nov 2010 23:07:38 +0000 michael 253901@http://www.stephenfry.com/forum/ <a href="http://iasp.info/resources/Crisis_Centres/" rel="nofollow">http://iasp.info/resources/Crisis_Centres/</a> website with large list of helpful phone or online listening places. covers entire world: just click on your country. katysara on "What to do in a suicide crisis" http://www.stephenfry.com/forum/topic/what-to-do-in-a-suicide-crisis/page/2#post-253081 Sat, 06 Nov 2010 21:19:31 +0000 katysara 253081@http://www.stephenfry.com/forum/ I'm going to leave them up, but parts of the very first post on this thread were written for research for my fifth book (SCREAMING IN SILENCE - Suicide, Attempted Suicide and Self-Harm). A more polished and detailed version appears within it (when it is published later in 2011) KSx Spots on "What to do in a suicide crisis" http://www.stephenfry.com/forum/topic/what-to-do-in-a-suicide-crisis/page/2#post-252273 Mon, 01 Nov 2010 23:38:19 +0000 Spots 252273@http://www.stephenfry.com/forum/ Gosh. If anyone ever needs a listening ear, please do ask..and I mean that in all honesty. Wilde Woman on "What to do in a suicide crisis" http://www.stephenfry.com/forum/topic/what-to-do-in-a-suicide-crisis/page/2#post-252267 Mon, 01 Nov 2010 23:24:17 +0000 Wilde Woman 252267@http://www.stephenfry.com/forum/ I hope people don't mind but I've pinched links from this site to add to my blogsite as sources of help. Feel free to pick out ones from there that you find helpful. I'm trying to collect as many sources of help as possible, but if you have suggestions please post them on my blog and here as you never know where people might be looking for support in that vital moment. <a href="http://mindwalking-ajournalofdiscovery.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">http://mindwalking-ajournalofdiscovery.blogspot.com/</a> Astrid on "What to do in a suicide crisis" http://www.stephenfry.com/forum/topic/what-to-do-in-a-suicide-crisis/page/2#post-251973 Sat, 30 Oct 2010 02:14:14 +0000 Astrid 251973@http://www.stephenfry.com/forum/ Laineybl. I also have the same thoughts, very often. How you describe your thoughts, so my thoughts have been - many, many times. Luckily I have a brother to talk to about these feelings. Day or night .. He also needs to hear how good it is to have him and how happy I am for all his good qualities. He encourages me in the same way. Hope you also have such a good friend. We really need it! John Steed on "What to do in a suicide crisis" http://www.stephenfry.com/forum/topic/what-to-do-in-a-suicide-crisis#post-251967 Fri, 29 Oct 2010 22:07:42 +0000 John Steed 251967@http://www.stephenfry.com/forum/ <blockquote><cite>laineybl <a href="//www.stephenfry.com/forum/topic/what-to-do-in-a-suicide-crisis#post-232535"">said</a>:</cite>i can't cope with the ups and downs when they roller coaster me around in seconds from one to the other and back and forth and up and down and upside down and downside up. i'm intelligent, articulate and a fucking waste of space. i have responsibilities and people who love me and i can't bare for anyone to see me out of control. i have to be in control of my emotions and feelings and behavior at all times and when i can't keep up the image of indestructible, tough as old boots, "i'll do it let me help you i can take it" me i just PANIC. you can't see me like this- you won't like me any more if you see who i am inside. i have to be good while all the time i'm bad inside. bad thoughts of a bad person. i try so hard to be who i should be but always end up the person i hate. the thing that hurts the most is having to hide me inside. control control control. "control yourself!" "you're not a child now you know!" "fuck off then!" "how the hell am i supposed to help you if you won't tell me what's wrong!" "now you are just being silly!" "oh will you just get a grip!" just some time to be me. to be cared for while i work out or hide from my demons. up down up down up down.......................................down down down down down.............can't let anyone see me like this where can i hide? nowhere cos nowhere is safe but what if i get stuck in nowhere?</blockquote> For the first time I've seen a post where I feel EXACTLY the same. Flowerpot on "What to do in a suicide crisis" http://www.stephenfry.com/forum/topic/what-to-do-in-a-suicide-crisis#post-251823 Wed, 27 Oct 2010 06:35:30 +0000 Flowerpot 251823@http://www.stephenfry.com/forum/ Seeing as this is a thread for suicide resources, there's a really great website here: <a href="http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/" rel="nofollow">http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/</a> That website saved my life, no joke. katysara on "What to do in a suicide crisis" http://www.stephenfry.com/forum/topic/what-to-do-in-a-suicide-crisis#post-232579 Thu, 20 May 2010 15:35:15 +0000 katysara 232579@http://www.stephenfry.com/forum/ I answered this same post on the introductions thread! laineybl on "What to do in a suicide crisis" http://www.stephenfry.com/forum/topic/what-to-do-in-a-suicide-crisis#post-232535 Thu, 20 May 2010 14:04:33 +0000 laineybl 232535@http://www.stephenfry.com/forum/ i can usually cope with the downs- i adjust my life as best i can. i can usually cope with the ups- i adjust my life the best i can. i can't cope with the ups and downs when they roller coaster me around in seconds from one to the other and back and forth and up and down and upside down and downside up. i'm intelligent, articulate and a fucking waste of space. i have responsibilities and people who love me and i can't bare for anyone to see me out of control. i have to be in control of my emotions and feelings and behavior at all times and when i can't keep up the image of indestructible, tough as old boots, "i'll do it let me help you i can take it" me i just PANIC. you can't see me like this- you won't like me any more if you see who i am inside. i have to be good while all the time i'm bad inside. bad thoughts of a bad person. i try so hard to be who i should be but always end up the person i hate. the thing that hurts the most is having to hide me inside. control control control. "control yourself!" "you're not a child now you know!" "fuck off then!" "how the hell am i supposed to help you if you won't tell me what's wrong!" "now you are just being silly!" "oh will you just get a grip!" just some time to be me. to be cared for while i work out or hide from my demons. up down up down up down.......................................down down down down down.............can't let anyone see me like this where can i hide? nowhere cos nowhere is safe but what if i get stuck in nowhere? katysara on "What to do in a suicide crisis" http://www.stephenfry.com/forum/topic/what-to-do-in-a-suicide-crisis#post-226967 Wed, 14 Apr 2010 12:21:12 +0000 katysara 226967@http://www.stephenfry.com/forum/ I have never had anything but the best of care from ambulance staff, indeed they saved my life on at least one occasion when they found me dead but did not give up and I was revived. The same visit, A&E staff were pissed with me for some reason (attempting suicide?) and dumped me half naked, uncovered and unconcious into a bed. It was actually an A&E <img src="http://www.stephenfry.com/bb-content/plugins//bb-smilies/default/icon_evil.gif" title=":evil:" class="bb_smilies" /> consultant who mistreated me the worst on another occasion - though he suddenly changed his tune when he found out I was in my final year studying for a PhD in medicine there in Oxford. First he tried to send me away whilst suffering from hypovolaemic shock and with 2 arteries exposed - just covered with a bandage that became drenched in blood in seconds. It was only when I TOLD him what treatment I needed that I got it, even then he tried (and succeeded) to cause maximum pain by using a big needle, injecting the lignocaine (anaesthetic) fast (which makes it hurt more) and into my wounds, not numbing the sides of skin to be sutured. Thankfully a kind <img src="http://www.stephenfry.com/bb-content/plugins//bb-smilies/default/icon_razz.gif" title=":P" class="bb_smilies" /> nurse gave me more lignocaine, but she had to ask his permission and he didn't like it... I so wish I had written down his name I would have made a complaint. ksx Slinki on "What to do in a suicide crisis" http://www.stephenfry.com/forum/topic/what-to-do-in-a-suicide-crisis#post-226885 Tue, 13 Apr 2010 23:26:11 +0000 Slinki 226885@http://www.stephenfry.com/forum/ Like Tug I too work front line for the ambulance service, and like Karen I also have Bipolar Disorder - I am not Bipolar. I also am horrified with the behaviour of a minority of my station collegues when attending self harm and psychiatric incidents, like Tug I appologise to patients, families and friends who feel they have been let down. Please don't judge the rest of us from one bad egg. In an attempt to open up the subject I have now made most of my co workers aware of my condition and have recieved great support and interest about Bipolar Disorder. Just as well really as a couple of weeks ago I arrived for work slightly shall we say hypomanic - or "Tigger on speed" as I was told. I had a great crew mate for the duration of the cycle who looked out for me and my behaviour whilst being tigger on speed, and is still looking out for me now I am dealing with the depression side of things. Anyway, back to topic; lets be honest, crisis is so easily the end game for many. As already stated 1 in 5 Bipolar patients in crisis achieve suicide, thats a higher rate than Schizophrenia! Please dont ignor the signs. There is some great advice above, but the bottom line is Get Help. Ambulance, Police, NHS Direct, out of hours GP's, walk in centres, and if you have the number the community crisis teams are all options which should start the ball rolling for you. Like Tug, and has to be said most of my co-workers and emergency service staff arround the country, we would "rarther be called and not needed than not called then needed". (like that phrase Tug I shall with permission use it again). Slinki xxx katysara on "What to do in a suicide crisis" http://www.stephenfry.com/forum/topic/what-to-do-in-a-suicide-crisis#post-222681 Sat, 20 Mar 2010 14:47:32 +0000 katysara 222681@http://www.stephenfry.com/forum/ I get mixed episodes too, and they are the most dangerous state psychologically a person can be in. 1 in 5 commit suicide... I gave it a damn good try on... let's say more than one occasion. KSx karen_r on "What to do in a suicide crisis" http://www.stephenfry.com/forum/topic/what-to-do-in-a-suicide-crisis#post-222557 Fri, 19 Mar 2010 06:10:24 +0000 karen_r 222557@http://www.stephenfry.com/forum/ thank you so much for that i will def be getin my mum,dad,husband and sister (my 4 rocks)to read this thread...i had tears in my eyes thinking about the lengths i go to when i am organising myself for suiside... getting kids looked after,buying cut throat razor blades or saving my pills for a while i even shaved my legs once :S god knows why i thought that was important!i make sure my kids wont find me i have even written a manual for my husband on what days the kids have p.e class and swimming lessons ...how to tie the girls hair up and making sure they are always neat and tidy for school its amazing how my brain manages all that as when i am in a depressed episode i can hardly move off sofa for days on end! saying that the mixed episodes are always my most at risk if you like! ....oh that was a wee rant lol <img src="http://www.stephenfry.com/bb-content/plugins//bb-smilies/default/icon_lol.gif" title=":lol:" class="bb_smilies" />