STEPHEN FRY

narcissus <a thankyou narcissus,i find this time of year really hard my ex partner, my kids dad left me on new year eve a few years ago now , and even though i am over him it still hurts, i was with him from when i was 16, its just hard is all, its the what ifs that eat away, what if things had been different, i don't know... but i will get over it at the end of the day somethings gotta give right.

Any idiot can face a crisis - it's day to day living that wears you out
anton chekhov
href="http://www.stephenfry.com/forum/topic/depression-3#post-279935">said:
I was desperately sorry to read that you are so incredibly lonely, and that making friends would amount to nothing but disappointment and possibly despondency. I do understand the loneliness of which you have written and the fear of getting close to someone…anyone. Through my job I have encountered the same and regrettable, more. Your 3 children must be a great comfort and I have no doubts they are your strength and will drag you through this, screaming and kicking all the way.
Not all are horrid, not all will leave you and not all have a hidden schedule. Be brave and take a huge step, it may help, I sincerely hope it dose.

ok after many years i have gone to the doctors and have been told i have severe clinical depression ,i have been prescribed citalopram and as with everything thing in my life i over analyze it.and am now petrified to take it the side effects are endless ,and with a lot of reports by other users of this medication it makes it worse before better i do not believe i could manage that physically or mentally .......all i want is to be me again.

any idiot can face a crisis, its day to day living that wears you out...anton chkhov

Being drawn to processed food - Oy vey! I have NEVER gotten away from that myself LOL And I eat what some might consider a pretty healthy diet. That you've abandoned such items altogether is extremely admirable I think. I've often conjectured that once you eat a potato chip, it's all over. It's just a downhill slide from there but damn sometimes they're good.

But you know what? The idea of avoiding processed foods altogether is something that may have much larger implications physiologically than is known even now. For example, one of the fastest growing diseases, Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma, has been on the rise over the last few decades. This disease strikes across all age groups from 10 - 80 years old, all genders...erm, I mean, both genders...and all ethnicities. I wonder if there's an environmental factor to that.

Beth, when it comes to medications that impact brain chemistry, it's kind of a black art for doctors. No pill works the same for every individual and sometimes you outgrow a medication. Which I'm sure is very frustrating. So they have to work pretty hard at dialing in a Rx suitable for you and they'll try to get you as close to the fewest side affects as possible, but you cannot avoid all of them across the board. It's kind of a "Every Pleasure has its Price" situation. Have you tried keeping a brief daily log on the impacts of this medicine? That can help your doctor and that's the point of it. They need all the details so they can adjust types and doseage. Meanwhile, the patient really has to hang in there until you get as close as you can to whatever YOUR normal is. But it's def going to take your participation in your life, as hard as it may feel right now, to get there. You could try starting with simple questions for yourself: Is there any aspect of my mood I feel is improved compared to before Drug 'x'? Also, I hope you won't be offended but you seem to be suffering a lot of anxiety which is maybe(?) intensified by the medication? Does your doctor know or have you realized anything like that? I think anxiety can be really awful to endure if it's too long lasting and fatiguing which, listen..I'm not a doctor but just puzzling around...could then intensify depression and impact motivation, you know? So, maybe you need an anxiety *specific* Rx to help ( they're two seperate families of drugs btw ).

I do think, fwiw, that wether you're on meds or not that you eat healthy foods as often as possible and stay hydrated. I would really encourage you to get back with your doctor and let them know you're not feeling well. I hope you will start to feel better soon

what's a 'pom'?

So you're saying that if an English person moves to Austrailia you would refer to this person as a 'pom'? Or, are they a Pom just for being English.

Hmmm...am starting to think your language is as difficult as ours

Nitro said:
So you're saying that if an English person moves to Austrailia you would refer to this person as a 'pom'? Or, are they a Pom just for being English.

Hmmm...am starting to think your language is as difficult as ours

Pom refers to a British person in Australia or NZ. It is a racist term, but the locals won't agree that it is.

Bethmeredith gets upset when taking her kids to school. I can relate to that because I always felt like an outsider among the other Mums. I have no time for telly soapies and sport, both of which were always the subjects du jour. So I simply dropped off my kids and walked away. Eventually I went back to work and the day care lady took them to school. End of problem.

I'm back into the depths of depression again myself, and the causes are things in my life that I can't do anything about. Working in my garden helps, but it is a bugger when the highlight of the week is planting cauliflowers and silver beet.

Thanks, Nitro. Things are still bad, but I know from experience that things change in the end.