STEPHEN FRY

The finality of it all is shattering. No more Katy-Sara. Just us, sending pointless messages into the void... I feel for those who knew her well. I've just recently become friendly with her, and I am shaken. And unable to use past tense for the life of me. Rest in peace, dear love. We will have to learn how to shuffle along without you. It will always feel fucked up.

Much thanks to everyone who shared their lovely memories of Katy-Sara. Too often when someone dies, we inevitably end up focusing on how they died rather than how they lived. I'm glad that many of you have good memories of Katy and that she had a positive impact on your lives. I'm sure you will always remember and treasure that.

I'm very saddened by this news. I didn't know Katy-Sara personally, apart from seeing her posts, but after reading all the contributions to this thread, I can see she was a much-loved and very caring person. My heart goes out to her family.

Hi everyone,

I am new to all this online stuff, but always knew Katy knew and helped hundreds of people through this site, The Bipolar Foundation site and her own website.

I have known Katy for 10 years, since we met in Oxford as students receiving treatment for our mental health problems. As with you all, she touched my life and changed it for the better.

She would never judge, or question, She would be honest and kind. No problem was too great, it was never the wrong time. She wrote so that others had a voice. She told the world that she was not ashamed of who she was, and I have taken that to my workplace and to my friends. She was perceptive and sensitive and loved others as she was never able to love herself.

I feel that her view of herself and the world was inverted. She was a light, a beacon of hope, a beautiful soul and a force for good in a world that is dark, cynical, selfish and cruel. She saw the beauty in others, the strengths we did not know we had until she pointed them out. Yet she could never see in the reflection of our love the wonder that she was.

She loved purple, Greenday, Pink, tattoos and really, really bad gore/shock horror movies. She had poetry in her soul and loved to read. She saw beauty in the black heart of other's suffering, through the window of their words to the world. She loved her dogs, and was devastated when Bobby died a few years ago. How Poppy will miss her now she is gone (especially sneaking into her room to sleep in bed with her!). She doted on her godchildren and her nephew. She was a fan of scampi and chips and blue wkd (or a frozen mojito).

Katy used many words to describe herself. To me she was a friend, a daughter, a sister, a gifted writer and scientist, a proud Oxonion, a computer whizz, an avid skier and cyclist. She was kind, generous, loving, forgiving, open, funny. She had the soul of a poet, the courage of a lioness and carried a burden most of us would have dropped long, long ago.

She is Katy Sara.

Thank you so much for sharing that post Clare30, it is nice to hear from someone who know KatySara personally. She sounds like she was as amazing IRL as she was on these forums. And I enjoyed learning more about what she liked and did when she wasn't on here. *hug*

That was really beautiful, Clare. Thank you for sharing with us.

This is so terribly sad. I haven't been a member of the forum long, but in my brief exchanges with KatySara she was always wonderfully kind, especially when I was nervous about posting in the BPD section of the site. It is clear that she was a truly lovely person. My thoughts are with her friends and family x