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Drac0
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Posted Mon Jan 16th, 2012 9:59pm Post subject: Me Time
A visit to "a place to sit" got me thinking about how people who know I have bipolar/depression can't understand that even if I'm not feeling to down, I need a little quiet time, some me time.
Admittedly, when I get right down I withdraw from the world around me (as a lot of us probably do). But just because I want some time alone it doesn't mean I'm suicidal or even down at all. They can't seem to accept that I LIKE to be alone, to kick back with a good book or some music (or both) for a few hours.
I've even got one person who just will not leave me alone no matter how often I say I'm fine & just want some peace & quiet. She constantly calls me saying 'talk to me, what's wrong' and won't believe I'm fine.
The other week I even went to the extreme of disconnecting my phone, & turning off my mobile to get some peace. No dice, when she couldn't get me she showed up on my doorstep. I know that she does care & gets worried about me but jeeze......
Anyone else get this, when they just won't believe your fine? What have you done to get the message through?
Cheers.
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cashew
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Posted Wed Jan 18th, 2012 12:38pm Post subject: Me Time
At least you've got somebody who cares. That's something, even if you find it annoying. I'd rather have somebody annoying me, than knowing beyond any doubt that nobody gives a crap.
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Drac0
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Posted Thu Jan 19th, 2012 8:59am Post subject: Me Time
cashew said:
At least you've got somebody who cares. That's something, even if you find it annoying. I'd rather have somebody annoying me, than knowing beyond any doubt that nobody gives a crap.
It's not always true that nobody cares. One thing I've found out since I've managed to get my condition under more control is that there are more people than I ever thought who do care but they just don't know how to talk with you.
One of my brothers is a good example of this. He has recently told me he's glad I'm getting better because he just didn't know how to deal with me when I was so withdrawn & uncommunicative. For that reason he stopped calling, stopped visiting. He was worried about me still, but just didn't know what to do.
So despite what I would think - same as you, that nobody cares - there were people who do, but they just don't know what to do. That's why getting mental health issues out in the open is so important, not only as information & help for sufferers but also to help those around them so they can understand & help more.
So just perhaps, you aren't quite as alone as you may think.
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Frazzy
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Posted Sat Jan 21st, 2012 5:58pm Post subject: Me Time
I just hide.. In a cupboard if it comes to that.. My boyfriend's grandparents have very comfortable cupboards..
Keep curtains closed so no one can see I'm home and I don't have to answer the door. If the curtains are open, dive behind the couch any time a car is heard in the driveway... I once hid under a desk for an hour to avoid talking to a plumber, perfectly sane, normal behaviour, right?
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Drac0
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Posted Sat Jan 21st, 2012 9:53pm Post subject: Me Time
I used to be like that Frazzy, though it hasn't happened in a couple of years thanks to new meds. Answering the phone or doors was a big no-no. Thankfully that part seems over for me, at least for now.
I still don't like the contact, but at least I can generally deal with it. Changing to Serequel & Effexor seems to have helped me. My current girlfriend finds it hard a lot of the time to believe I'm bipolar because she's never seen me during a bad time & now I can act pretty 'normal' most of the time.
Really hope you can find something that helps you.
Cheers
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Frazzy
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Posted Sun Jan 22nd, 2012 1:40am Post subject: Me Time
I can deal with it some days, other days, someone will just say 'good morning' and look at me waiting for a reply, and that is hell.
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Drac0
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Posted Mon Jan 23rd, 2012 3:09am Post subject: Me Time
Thinking about this I'm finding that I am actually still doing it, but more indirectly because of modern technology. Instead of not answering the phone, I'll put my mobile on silent so I can say 'oh sorry, didn't hear your call'.
And yes, I seem to still have it happen when people call around to see me - last night someone came to my door & I just ignored it, waiting for them to just go away. They did & when they called several hours later I found they had assumed I was sleeping.
So I do still do it, just that a mobile phone on silent gives me an out.
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The CatBat Princess
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Posted Sat Mar 17th, 2012 6:24pm Post subject: Me Time
Frazzy said:
I just hide.. In a cupboard if it comes to that.. My boyfriend's grandparents have very comfortable cupboards..
Keep curtains closed so no one can see I'm home and I don't have to answer the door. If the curtains are open, dive behind the couch any time a car is heard in the driveway... I once hid under a desk for an hour to avoid talking to a plumber, perfectly sane, normal behaviour, right?
That sounds very familiar to me.
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