okay i went round and read some articles and have something i want to say.
there is a reason WHY we stereotype, it does help in our survival and is probably something our brains do when faced with unknown people, situations, etc.
however, if that OTHER person that is the unknown is not a THREAT...and we go on using this survival tactic, that is a problem.
in my experience, no matter how genius a person is, it's really hard to talk and listen at the same time. this is true not just in conversation, but with our thoughts.
now, this isn't scientific lingo, it's just how the situation seems to me: if our brains are "talking out" a message: this person is brown...this person has shabbier clothes than mine...this person might be violent...
we will not hear that person say "excuse me, do you have the time?"
we might think they said something else! or we may not hear them at all.
to me, stereotyping gone awry is like taking a class and thinking that you already know everything that will be taught in the class. if you think you know everything already and are too concerned with telling people what you know and showing the teacher how "awesome" you are, you probably won't learn anything new.
and if you are too busy making jokes about a population group your friend is from to hear them say "i am not like that, i am like this" then you will learn nothing new about your friend, and they will feel very hurt.
"HELLO I'M TACTILE !" is an anagram of my name