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michael
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Posted Mon Feb 1st, 2010 8:29pm Post subject: weddings
one coworker is getting married,&another has a daughter getting married. they chat in my office (for quite awhile sometimes) about caterers and flowers and...stuff...
it's frustrating... i don't hate weddings or anything, i just feel uncomfortable about the fuss made.
my friend's sister is getting married, and the friend is gay. the sister makes long phone calls, upset over tiny planning details, upset over how much it might cost, even tho she WANTS an elaborate wedding...
and the friend is just biting her tongue over and over trying not to say "SIS... i've been trying to sympathize for months now... but seeing as weddings can't even be a blip on my radar...can you just be happy you're GETTING MARRIED?"
i have absolutely no reason for starting a thread about it, lol  maybe when the wedding talk starts up again i can come back and say "now they're talking about invitations...and... blue... things..."
"HELLO I'M TACTILE !" is an anagram of my name
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IdeaCollector
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Posted Tue Feb 2nd, 2010 6:19am Post subject: weddings
They always happen in groups...I'm not a fan of the fuss either but luckily I was blessed to live a long way away from all of my friends/cousins when they got married. 6 weddings in 1 year and I only made it to 1.
It's all just frustrating to be around brides who want things to be perfect...I'm much happier sending a $25 gift and wishing them luck.
I used to be EternalStudent on these forums until the switch over. So don't get excited..I'm not someone new and exciting. I'm just me :P
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joan
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Posted Tue Feb 2nd, 2010 7:34am Post subject: weddings
The whole thing is because girls want to be a 'princess' for a day. I kept mine as simple as possible because I just wanted to marry my boyfriend so that we could live together. He was serving in the Royal Navy and only married sailors could live ashore. Also, we knew we wanted to be together for life.
i once read that a big wedding is a high state occasion organised by amateurs, and hence is bound for disaster. I tend to agree.
Even our small simple one had its share of disasters - mainly through friends and relatives hating each other on sight!!
Never again. If I was ever widowed and re-married it would be quiet, back garden affair.
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crystalize
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Posted Tue Feb 2nd, 2010 12:15pm Post subject: weddings
Nevermind Michael, just think, you've got the baby talk and the divorce to look forward to next. 
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gadgetgirl
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Posted Tue Feb 2nd, 2010 2:53pm Post subject: weddings
I seem to be quite odd in that I never had any particular "dreams" of getting married at all. I was very happy when I did, but my poor mother failed to get me in the slightest bit interested in the sorts of flowers to have, a new hairdo, or what font to use on the invites. It seemed to go alright and everyone had a nice time so I'd say it was a success!
crystalize - you made me
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michael
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Posted Tue Feb 2nd, 2010 3:32pm Post subject: weddings
crystalize said:
Nevermind Michael, just think, you've got the baby talk and the divorce to look forward to next.
lol!
SIGH that is very true for most folks i know who married in the past 4-5 years. out of 7 recent marriages in my circle of friends / relatives, 4 pairs are already divorced!
and there's folks in the U.S. who say allowing gays to get married will wreck this incredibly, incredibly, strong and magnificent institution lol
"HELLO I'M TACTILE !" is an anagram of my name
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Nitro
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Posted Wed Feb 3rd, 2010 2:15pm Post subject: weddings
Yeah, you'd think more divorce lawyers would be getting behind everyone getting married!
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AnCBeck
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Posted Mon Feb 22nd, 2010 10:33pm Post subject: weddings
So this wedding business isn't exclusive to the U.S., huh? I don't know about in England, but here in America there are tons of reality shows dedicated to brides and their "problems." I can't stand them--they encourage bad attitudes.
"Ordinary riches can be stolen, real riches cannot. In your soul are infinitely precious things that cannot be taken from you." -Oscar Wilde
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tito
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Posted Tue Feb 23rd, 2010 1:44pm Post subject: weddings
Yes, we have them here too. 
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joan
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Posted Wed Feb 24th, 2010 1:37am Post subject: weddings
Oh yes - the BIG wedding thing is here too (Australia) - hugely expensive wedding dresses, all colour coordination, blokes having to hire fancy suits - awful awful awful.
I've told my two sons to elope, when the time comes, or at least have a quiet 'do' in the local bush chapel in the park.( http://www.ipswich.qld.gov.au/documents/environment/queens_park_web.pdf) It is just a lectern with a few park benches in front, in a pretty part of a park.
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AnCBeck
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Posted Wed Feb 24th, 2010 3:35am Post subject: weddings
I can understand wanting to have a really nice wedding, but what I don't like is this attitude that the bride is a princess for the day, and that the one day of the wedding seems more important to so many people than having an actual marriage. I'm sure that attitude has ended in more than a few failed marriages. It's also unbelievable to me that some people are willing to bankrupt themselves for a one-day event (and I'm sure those people still exist, despite the bad economy). Wouldn't you rather save the money for a home or something like that?
"Ordinary riches can be stolen, real riches cannot. In your soul are infinitely precious things that cannot be taken from you." -Oscar Wilde
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joan
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Posted Wed Feb 24th, 2010 5:04am Post subject: weddings
AnCBeck23 said:
I can understand wanting to have a really nice wedding, but what I don't like is this attitude that the bride is a princess for the day, and that the one day of the wedding seems more important to so many people than having an actual marriage. I'm sure that attitude has ended in more than a few failed marriages. It's also unbelievable to me that some people are willing to bankrupt themselves for a one-day event (and I'm sure those people still exist, despite the bad economy). Wouldn't you rather save the money for a home or something like that?
Exactly! A really nice wedding does need to cost a lot. One of my sons has a Chinese/Vietname/Australian girlfriend. I just know it will be the full Chinese wedding - and I have no idea what that entails. Could be a Buddhist wedding too,,,,,,,
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tito
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Posted Wed Feb 24th, 2010 1:29pm Post subject: weddings
Our niece married recently. She is a working class girl, with a good job, but not immensely rich. The wedding cost £25,000.
Was it lovely? Yes? Have I been to weddings which were done far more cheaply and were just as/more lovely? yes.
I know it was up to them but I could just think of many more useful things to spend the money on.
They took out a loan for part of it. Ridiculous.
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michael
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Posted Fri Feb 26th, 2010 5:01pm Post subject: weddings
ok, i have to come back and rant a bit about this again.
my significant other (i'm gay) is negotiating a new job offer vs. the current one, and part of that is partner benefits OR negotiating for a job for me at the same workplace. this is a new relationship, and we have both said we hope it's long term or permanent! and moving forward with this stuff... well, it kinda means we're committing to each other at the same level as being engaged! we're looking towards all the same things that married people do.
but i'm not running up and down the hall, spreading the news, and even if i did, i doubt anyone is going to cry tears of joy and go "oh my god!!! oh my god!!!"
many many mixed feelings. most of them good!! i just kinda feel wierd that absolutely no one at work knows what's going on in my life. maybe i should just drop the bomb, lol. nah. i'll just run up and down the hall in my head...
"HELLO I'M TACTILE !" is an anagram of my name
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andrealein
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Posted Fri Feb 26th, 2010 6:26pm Post subject: weddings
Being in the role of the bride would be pure horror for me. I don't want to be princess for one day, the centre of all attention and responsible for everyone having fun. Even birthday parties are too much for me, lol. But that's just me.
Apart from that, I also think marriage is a bit overrated. I guess it's planning your life together and live like that what really counts and what you should be excited about.
I know, I know. Of course there's all the legal stuff. But people don't get crazy because of tax reasons etc. Er... what was my point?
I am not a Russian spy, cross my heart and hope to die.
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